A Detailed Timeline of My Family's After-Death Communications From My Mother

  By Kevin Williams

MomThe paranormal aspect of these after-death communications (ADCs) include: (1) my mother's successful ability to provide evidence of her continued survival after bodily death through lucid dreams, physical contact, and a series of remarkable coincidences over the years which have provided comfort her grieving family; (2) my mother's successful ability to say her "goodbyes" to her children -- something she wasn't able to do in life because of the suddenness of her death -- through these ADCs of lucid dreams and a particular synchronicity of the song Moon River; and (3) how these ADCs and numerous synchronicities altogether reveal one beautiful, synchronistic connection itself between my mother and the main character in Breakfast at Tiffany's which this article will show was also the inspiration for multitudes of young, liberated housewives and mothers of the revolutionary 60's to seek the same self-realization. These ADCs are events verifiable through sources such as cable television listings, telephone records, radio program logs, email archives, Internet news articles, website update logs, hospital records, and more importantly, from members of my own family.

 
Year/Date Event
 1961

The song Moon River became famous by Audrey Hepburn in Truman Capote's movie Breakfast at Tiffany's. A more popular version of Moon River was later made famous by Andy Williams.

  HYolly GoLightly

Moon River, a beautiful song by Henry Mancini and Johnny Mercer, became famous when was it was originally performed by Audrey Hepburn in the movie adaptation of Truman Capote's novella Breakfast at Tiffany's. Another version of the song was produced by Andy Williams and made into his signature song. The Atlantic Monthly described Moon River as "a love sung to wanderlust." The song has also been compared to "Somewhere Over The Rainbow," sung by Judy Garland in the movie "The Wizard of Oz," as having similar symbolism and themes of loneliness and longing to escape for the "American dream" as characteristic of 20th century America. Breakfast at Tiffany's is the story of Holly GoLightly, a young woman who leaves her family and four children for a new life in the big city. Her constant desire and dream to escape to a better life is epitomized in the movie when she sits on her apartment's window ledge while singing the song Moon River which was created specifically for this movie character.

 
"Moon River"
music by Henry Mancini, lyrics by Johnny Mercer
 
Moon River, wider than a mile, I'm crossing you in style some day.
Oh, dream maker, you heart breaker, wherever you're going I'm going your way.
Two drifters off to see the world. There's such a lot of world to see.
We're after the same rainbow's end - waiting 'round the bend,
my huckleberry friend, Moon River and me.
(Listen to Andy Williams sing the song or Henry Mancini orchestrate the song)
 
 Early 1960's

The song Moon River as sung by Andy Williams became my mother's favorite song and could be heard frequently on our living room stereo when I was a child.

 

My mother's photo. While I was growing up in the 60's, the song Moon River could be heard on my Mom's living room stereo like a soundtrack from my childhood. It was certainly her favorite song; but it was much more. It was a song she identified with and a beautiful expression of the "restless dreamer" side to her personality. When my Mom was very young with four children, I remember her longing to be an airline stewardess. My Mom was always a liberated, free-spirited, woman of the revolutionary 60's; and like Truman Capote's main character Holly GoLightly in Breakfast at Tiffany's, my Mom had a real "Moon River" to cross in the future, to see the world, and to find her rainbow's end.

 1970

My young mother left her young husband and four children for a man named Paul remarkably synchronistic with Truman Capote's characters in Breakfast at Tiffany's.

 

My mother's photo. HYolly GoLightlyIn 1970 my Mom fulfilled her Moon River dream of "two drifters off to see the world" in synchronicity with Truman Capote's main character in Breakfast at Tiffany's -- a synchronicity so uncanny -- it's as if she was directly influenced by the movie itself and not just the song, although I have no way of verifying this now. My Dad remarried soon afterward and within a few years her children would reunite with their Mom. After traveling throughout the beautiful western U.S. for a number of years, my Mom eventually found her rainbow's end in Montana where her children would grow up to have their own grandchildren. In the end, my Mom died in 2001 a true western "pioneer" woman, literally with her boots on, as a ranch cook, while elk hunting in the mountains near Yellowstone Park, Montana. My Mom truly lived life to the very fullest; and It was a valuable lesson she taught to her children throughout her life.

 Sept. 26, 1978

I attended a college lecture on this day by Truman Capote, the inspiration of Breakfast at Tiffany's, the inspiration for the song Moon River.

  Truman Capote

As a sophomore at Montana State University (MSU), I attended a Truman Capote lecture as a special event during "Rush Week" at the university. I chose to attend this lecture because I knew Capote from the movie In Cold Blood. It was also the only entertainment available for the evening. At the time, I wasn't aware of Capote authoring Breakfast at Tiffany's or the movie's connection to the song Moon River. I also remember Capote's lecture as not being very good. His voice was unintelligible after years of alcoholism and he eventually had to be led offstage. Many years later, I finally found an article which mentioned the lecture.

  Sept. ??, 1978

Days after the Truman Capote lecture on September 26, 1978, I attended a college fraternity party at a hot springs in the vast wilderness area near Yellowstone Park just three miles away from where my mother would die in a car accident 23 years later in 2001

 

Map of synchronicityWithin days of attending the lecture by Truman Capote in 1978, I attended an fraternity kegger party at the hot springs near Gardiner, Montana as part of the university's "Rush Week" festivities. The party was three miles away from where my mother would die in a car accident 23 years later in 2001. My memory of this fraternity party occurring during the same "Rush Week" as the Truman Capote lecture didn't cross my mind until I had an interesting epiphany in 2017 (described later in this timeline). And when I checked Google Maps in 2017 to see how close the fraternity party in Gardiner, Montana was to the 2001 accident near Yellowstone Park, I was tremendously surprised to discover the fraternity party was roughly three miles away from where my Mom died in a car accident in 2001. Given the fact my Mom and I lived far from both events near Yellowstone Park at those times is really quite remarkable and beyond coincidence.

 Nov. 15, 2000

I created a music CD for my mother with her favorite song, Moon River, at the top of the list.

 

Andy Williams photo. About a year before my Mom's death, I was burning music CDs on my computer like crazy because I had downloaded a program called Napster allowing me to easily and quickly download music files directly computer-to-computer with others on the Internet. So I asked my Mom what songs she wanted on a music CD, and she of course wanted songs from Andy Williams, her favorite, and others from singers such as Boots Randolph and Burl Ives. I placed Andy Williams' song Moon River at the top of the CD list because I knew she loved it the most.

 Nov. 24, 2001

My mother died in a car accident on this day while hunting with my fraternal twin brother's family near Yellowstone Park. The accident occurred just three miles away from the fraternity party I attended in 1978 during "Rush Week" festivities when I attended the Truman Capote lecture.

 

My MotherMy Mom died in 2001 just three miles away from the 1978 fraternity party I attended out in the wilderness near Yellowstone Park. My twin brother Steve and his wife Sandy sustained severe injuries which left Sandy with a permanent disability. It was probably a miracle that Sandy survived. The accident happened far away from any major town or hospital. Their 14-year-old son, Joshua, who was the only uninjured person in the accident, was able to climb up the embankment to the road they were driving to get help. A car driven by a medical technician with a cell phone just happened to come upon the accident scene minutes later. Because the accident occurred far out in the wilderness, it is a miracle anybody actually happened to drive by so soon -- let alone a medical technician with a cell phone. Not only that, the medical technician's cell phone worked far out of range -- a rarity in those days. With one phone call, a helicopter was summoned to the scene which likely saved Sandy's life because of the severity of her injuries. Had their son Joshua been severely injured or worse, there is no doubt the accident would have been even more tragic. It was my Mom's time to go to heaven -- not anyone else.

 Nov. 26, 2001

On this day, just two days after my mother's death, she appeared to my sister and I in similar lucid ADC visitation dreams on the same night. My mother told me about a message she had yet to give my brother Glenn which I would find out later related to my brother's memory of the song Moon River.

 

My mother's photo. My sister and I had remarkably similar lucid dreams of our Mom on the same night. I was having a normal dream where I was running toward a closed door. When I opened the door and rushed into the room, to my utter astonishment, there was my mother sitting on a couch looking at me with a serious look on her face. Her head and body was situated toward me in a similar manner as the photo on the left. The moment I saw her, I suddenly realized I was dreaming (a lucid dream) and here was my Mom alive and well interrupting my dream. She was sitting with one leg crossed over the other and was holding her chin with the fingers of her left hand with one of the fingers resting against her chin like the photo on the left. She had her thick glasses on and because she was shifted sideways looking at me, her beautiful eyes appeared larger than usual. It was as though she had been sitting there awhile waiting and expecting me to show up. When I realized she had interrupted my dream, I exclaimed, "Mom, you're not dead!" To which she replied, "I haven't told Glenn yet." At this point, I woke up.

For a few seconds after I woke up, I actually believed she was still physically alive in the world. My lucid dream of her and my brief conversation with her was THAT incredibly real. But then I quickly realized the lucid dream was actually an ADC dream visitation (of which I had read so much about) of my Mom who was still alive -- but on the Other Side of life. Before having this lucid dream, I can remember having only two other lucid dreams in my life. So having a lucid dream is rare to my experience which made this ADC visitation dream of my mother even more special. My mother's reply to my astonishment of her not being dead -- and how she hadn't told Glenn about it yet -- I assumed she was also going to appear to Glenn in a similar fashion to show him she was still alive. A few days later, I phoned my sister Debbie and told her about my ADC dream of Mom. We were both pleasantly surprised to learn we had similar lucid dreams of Mom on the same night. Debbie's reaction when she saw Mom in her lucid dream was exactly the same as mine, "Mom, you're not dead!" It is the only authentic reaction a person can have when confronted with the so-called "impossible" during a lucid dream -- the sudden appearance of a deceased loved one.

 Nov. 26, 2001

On the same day as my spontaneous visitation dream of my mother sitting on a couch in a heavenly room, my brother Glenn had a spontaneous childhood memory of my mother sitting on a couch in the living room with him in her arms singing Moon River.

  Glenn's photo.

I wasn't aware of Glenn's spontaneous memory until December 6, 2003 when he told me about it and I put all the pieces of this "ADC puzzle" together. Glenn also told me how it was on November 26, 2001, just two days after Mom's death, that this spontaneous memory of Mom singing Moon River to him as a child inspired him to sing Moon River at her memorial on June 22, 2002. Singing the song Moon River at Mom's memorial was something Glenn told no one he was going to do prior to doing it. And singing Moon River was the catalyst for all the many synchronicities involving Moon River and my Mom to follow. Glenn has an award-winning singing voice and a master's degree in Drama. Singing the song Moon River to himself out loud was my brother's way to help cope with his immense grief. His rendition of Moon River to my mother at her memorial service was certainly a beautiful way to memorialize her and I have no doubt my mother was there in spirit to enjoy it.

 Nov. 28, 2001

On this day, just two days after my ADC visitation dream of my mother, I phoned my sister Debbie and told her about it. She then told me about a remarkably similar ADC dream of my mother she had on the same night as mine.

  Debbie's photo.

I phoned Debbie to tell her about my visitation dream of Mom two days after her death and was surprised to learn Debbie had a similar lucid dream on the same night. She saw Mom in a heavenly waiting room which elicited from her the same reaction, "Mom, you're not dead!" Later I would realize how Glenn, Debbie and I had been contacted by Mom from heaven on the same day. Glenn's childhood memory of Mom singing Moon River inspired him to sing Moon River at Mom's memorial on June 22, 2002.

 June 20, 2002

On this day, just days before Glenn would sing Moon River at Mom's memorial, Debbie spontaneously remembered Moon River as a song she associated with Mom. It was also a song she hadn't thought of since childhood. Debbie would experience a major synchronicity when my brother Glenn sang Moon River two days later at my Mom's memorial.

  Debbie's photo.

The song Moon River suddenly popped into Debbie's memory while she was taking a shower. At the time, she could only remember the tune and not the lyrics. When Glenn sang Moon River two days later at the memorial, it was a very significant synchronicity for her -- especially hearing the lyrics of Moon River again.

 June 22, 2002

My brother sang Moon River in my mother's memory at her memorial.

 

Glenn's photo. At my Mom's memorial, Glenn sang Moon River beautifully for all to hear - including my mother whom I am sure was there in spirit. Glenn sang the song looking up and away as if singing directly to Mom in heaven which he obviously was. I couldn't attend my mother's memorial in Montana because I was in California recovering from bipolar mania and depression. You can read about my transition through grief in another article in this section.

 June 27, 2002

I watched my mother's memorial on videotape on this day and heard my brother sing Moon River.

 
A photo of m mother's grave.

My Dad made a videotape of my Mom's memorial and I watched it when he returned on this date. When I saw my brother sing Moon River on videotape, I remember thinking how Glenn couldn't have picked a better song to sing in our Mom's memory. He picked Mom's song. I remembered making a music CD for my Mom with Moon River on it only a year before her death. Hearing Glenn sing Moon River to Mom, I was pleasantly surprised to learn how I was not the only one who identified the song with Mom.

 July 1, 2002

On this evening, just days after watching my mother's memorial and hearing Glenn sing Moon River, I had a spontaneous and powerful hour-long ADC visitation with my mother where I felt her enormous presence.

  Kevin's photo.

I was alone in my room late this night grieving over my brother Steve and what he and his family were suffering resulting from the accident. My grief for my brother overcame me and I began to cry, something I do not do very often. While the flood gate of tears started to come down, all of a sudden, like a thunderbolt from heaven hitting my heart, a powerful invisible beam of love and joy struck my chest filling me with ecstasy. I then felt my mother's presence and tremendous love magnified hundreds of times enter my room. It was as if my mother could no longer stand by in heaven and watch me grieve any longer. To remedy the situation, she brought heaven along with her and filled me with an ecstasy I have never experienced before or since. And because I didn't get the chance to say "goodbye" to her before she died, I felt this was not only a visit, but also the "goodbye" I couldn't say to her. For about an hour, I could feel my mother's heavenly presence surround me and comfort me. I also had a wonderful, healing conversation with her which restored my soul. I have an entire article detailing this ADC.

 July 2, 2002

The next morning, only hours after my ADC presence of my mother, I turned the television on and by pure coincidence Truman Capote's movie Breakfast at Tiffany's came on and the song Moon River began to play. I immediately understood this to be a profound ADC synchronicity validating the profound ADC visitation of my mother just hours earlier.

 

My mother's photo. When I got out of bed that morning, I immediately turned the television on as I often do. When I did, I began hearing the song Moon River. I couldn't believe my ears! It was Henry Mancini's rendition of Moon River in Truman Capote's movie Breakfast at Tiffany's. It was such an amazing coincidence, any doubt existing in my mind about my Mom's presence being just a bipolar delusion, was completely removed at this moment. This incredibly improbable coincidence, of randomly turning a television on just in time to hear Moon River play from the beginning, also went far beyond coincidence. Later, I calculated the odds of this happening at random: the odds are over 1 in 6.5 million! But I didn't need to do the math to know how improbable this was. It was a clear sign from heaven. It was also at this point that I began documenting these Moon River coincidences.

 July 21, 2002

My father heard Paul Harvey on the car radio discussing a news item about the real Moon River.

 

About a month after my Mom's memorial, my Dad was driving his car and listening to Paul Harvey on the radio. He remembered hearing Paul Harvey talk about how the sign over the real Moon River near Savannah, Georgia, repeatedly kept being stolen. My Dad noted the meaningful coincidence of hearing a news story about Moon River after hearing Glenn sing it at the memorial. He also thought it was unusual for stolen signs to be a newsworthy item on a Paul Harvey show -- let alone the Moon River signs. Perhaps other people were also having wonderful connections with the song? Who knows? Anyway, my whole family soon knew about these coincidences as I put them all together and shared it with them. And it turned out to be the blessing I thought it would be. Nevertheless, after this event, no one received a Moon River coincidence afterward for many months and I assumed that was the end of it. Boy, was I wrong!

 Nov. 5, 2003

I published these ADCs and Moon River coincidences on my website on this day.

 

Kevin's photo. About fifteen months passed since the last coincidence, so I assumed it was all over. However, one of the biggest Moon River coincidences was yet to come. But on this date, I published the first draft of these ADCs and Moon River coincidences on my website and then emailed family members so they would be aware of it. This would be the first time many of my greater family members would read about these entire ADC series of events.

 Nov. 5, 2003

On the same day, my brother Glenn heard the song Moon River highlighted on the television show "Sex and the City."

 

Glenn's photo. On the same day I published these ADCs and Moon River coincidences on my website, Glenn was watching one of his favorite television programs, "Sex and the City," and the song Moon River was highlighted on the show. It was a pleasant surprise for him to hear Moon River at the time and it caused him to reflect on Mom. One of the amazing aspects to spontaneously hearing Moon River these days is that the song is so old, it's a wonder the song is heard at all.

 Nov. 6, 2003

The next day, Glenn read my email about the ADCs and Moon River coincidences on my website. Because he heard Moon River play the night before on "Sex and the City," this was a big Moon River synchronicity for him.

 

Glenn's photo. The day after I published the family's coincidences on my website, and sent an email to the family about it, Glenn read my email and read what I published on my site. This was a big synchronicity for him because of his hearing the song on TV the previous night. It was also around the second anniversary of Mom's passing on November, 24, 2001 -- a time when everyone is remembering Mom the most. After viewing what I published, Glenn emailed me to tell me about his coincidences and wrote, "Now I can't get Moon River out of my head."

 Nov. 24, 2003

On this day, the second anniversary of my mother's death, my sister Debbie coincidently watched Andy Williams sing Moon River on a cable biography of him.

 

Andy Williams' photo. An A&E Biography of Andy Williams was on cable television on the second anniversary of my mother's death. By mere coincidence, my sister stumbled across the program and watched it. I learned about it the next day when I happened to phone her about a previous Moon River coincidences.

 Nov. 25, 2003

The next day I phoned my sister Debbie. To my utter amazement, she told me about hearing Andy Williams singing Moon River on TV the previous day, on the second anniversary of my mother's death.

 

Debbie's photo. On this day, I was working on these web pages about Moon River coincidences at the time and I needed more information about a previous Moon River coincidence from Debbie. After getting the information I needed, she told me about watching an Andy Williams biography on TV the night before and heard him sing Moon River. Because I happened to phone her about the subject, this was an enormous coincidence for my sister as it was for me. Andy Williams sang Moon River on TV on the anniversary of my mother's death! At this point, I realized my mother is reassuring our family once again with "signs from heaven."

 Nov. 25, 2003

On the same day, Steve and his wife Sandy were browsing around in a mall music store when Sandy picked the first CD she saw on the shelf at random. It was a Barbara Streisand CD. Out of curiosity, she looked on the back of the CD and saw the song Moon River listed on it.

 

Sandy's photo. Steve's photo. About an hour after phoning Debbie, I phoned my brother Steve to tell him about the coincidences recently happening and to see if he had any recent coincidences to share. I thought it unlikely he would also have a Moon River coincidence at this time, given the other amazing coincidences which have already happened. So I was completely flabbergasted to learn they did have one. Only hours before I phoned him, he and Sandy walked into a mall music store and his wife Sandy grabbed the first CD on the shelf at random out of curiosity. It was a Barbara Streisand CD. She looked on the back of the CD and was surprised to see Moon River listed on it.

 Dec. 6, 2003

On this date, for the first time I learned what inspired Glenn to sing Moon River at Mom's memorial. A few days after her death, he remembered an incident in his childhood where he sat on the couch in the living room with my mother singing Moon River.

 
Kevin's photo.

Ever since my wonderful ADC presence of my Mom and its validation the next morning, I have been documenting these Moon River coincidences without knowing how some of the details fit together. There was only one question I needed to know, and it had to do with what my Mom told me in the lucid dream I had of her two days after her death. When I saw her, I exclaimed, "Mom, you're not dead!" to which she replied, "I haven't told Glenn yet." Ever since I had then, I always wondered how Mom was going to tell Glenn "she wasn't dead." I would discover the answer on this date after sending an email to Glenn asking him what inspired him to sing Moon River at Mom's memorial. And I couldn't have been more stunned! Here is what he wrote:

 

Glenn's photo. "My thinking about 'Moon River' began only a few days after Mom died. Music has always been for me an outlet for emotions. I've been attracted lately to rediscover the music of my youth and, when Mom died, a lot of the songs she sang to me and we enjoyed together (largely at the Ivy St. house in Monrovia) flooded back. I actually have a literal memory of Mom singing 'Moon River' when I was a kid. We were sitting on the couch in the living room at 201 N. Ivy and she had her arm around me and we were singing the song together. The song was always the Black Sheep National Anthem to me and I felt then that we both knew something about loneliness. Mom had the sweetest singing voice, beautiful and clear. I loved hearing her sing. The memory has long been a sweet one for me. 

 

"After Mom died, I found myself singing 'Moon River' out loud to myself at work and in the car and everywhere else. It kind of became a way for me to sing to Mom and it helped me feel Mom's presence during the grieving process. 

 

"During the memorial at Deb's house, I really wanted to get up and sing 'Moon River'. But I was afraid that it would be too sentimental or that people would feel I was being inappropriate for a memorial. I kept thinking, maybe I should sing 'I Come to the Garden Alone' or some other religious song. But 'Moon River' kept running through my heart and I knew that's what I wanted to sing for her. I waited until we were pretty much finished sharing and then thought to myself, this is my last and only chance to do this and I don't want to regret not singing this song at this moment. So I told everyone I had one more thing to do, and I got up and sang 'Moon River' a capella. 

 

"'Moon River' keeps coming up for me. I finally had to break down and buy an Andy Williams collection to get a copy. There are other Mom songs that come through for me as well: 'Turn Around,' 'Prayer for Bobby,' and others. But nothing like 'Moon River.'"

 

My mother's photo. With Glenn's reply, I finally had the pieces to the puzzle in place! The question I had was finally answered! I knew exactly how and when Mom made Glenn aware she wasn't dead! And I was astonished to say the least! Debbie and I learned Mom "wasn't dead" when we had our lucid dreams of her two days after her death. In my dream, Mom was sitting on a couch telling me she, "hasn't told Glenn yet [that she isn't dead]." It was Glenn's remembering this childhood incident of sitting on a couch with Mom singing Moon River, just days after Mom died, which inspired him to sing the song at the memorial. I believe this is why Mom appeared to me sitting on a couch in my dream! She obviously knew I would eventually make this connection. If Glenn had not sung Moon River at the memorial, all the other Moon River coincidences that followed would have gone unnoticed and I would never have thought to ask other family members about any possible coincidences as well! And it was Glenn's singing of Moon River which made it possible for my Mom's messages from the Other Side to come through! I was merely the one who put the pieces together! And if I hadn't understood what ADCs were beforehand, none of this would have made any sense! My dream of seeing Mom sitting on a couch, and Glenn' childhood memory of sitting on a couch with Mom, all in the same time frame, is a clear case of a very rare type of synchronicity -- of the mental kind!

 

Truman CapoteHYolly GoLightlyAt this specific time, I had not yet realized the synchronistic connection between my fraternity's "Rush Week" activities, which included the Truman Capote lecture, and the fraternity party held just three miles away from the 2001 accident where my Mom died. I wouldn't realize this amazing synchronicity until 2017 after having phone conversations with my siblings. But even so, at this time I had already had an ADC in 2002 of seeing Truman Capote's Breakfast at Tiffany's and hearing Moon River play on my television the moment I turned it on the morning after my Mom's ADC presence from heaven. And I suspected there was more to the message behind these Moon River coincidences which also involved its inspiration -- Truman Capote's Breakfast at Tiffany's. I sensed that my Mom wanted me to understand the reason why she left her family at such a critical time in our lives. A major ADC synchronicity in October 2018 involving Truman Capote would emphasize this point.

 

Glenn's photo. I should also address the synchronicity between Truman Capote and my brother Glenn. I did not tell Glenn until 2009 about my attending a lecture by Truman Capote. It wasn't until 2009 I learned my brother was a fan of Capote. Later, I discovered the various synchronicities between them. As it was with Capote, my brother Glenn is openly gay and a champion for gay rights. Glenn was born on August 25th, the day Capote died. Capote was raised in Monroeville, AL. Glenn was raised in Monrovia, CA. The phonetic pronunciation of "Mon-Roeville" and "Mon-Rovia" are remarkable similar to "Moon River." Both worked as an actor, writer, and playwright. Both rose above a childhood troubled by divorce. As was the case with Glenn and Capote, their mothers left them at a young age to find a new life which, in Capote's and his character Holly GoLightly's case, was New York City. So because of these synchronistic connections, it is obvious to me how my brother Glenn and Capote belong to the same "higher-level" soul group as defined by Dr. Michael Newton and NDE studies which affirm LGBT people have historically been "the shamans, the healers, the visionaries, the mediators, the peacekeepers," and "the people who walk between the worlds" and "the keepers of beauty" (Source). These Moon River coincidences concerning my mother would never have occurred if it wasn't for (1) Truman Capote's inspiration of Breakfast at Tiffany's and its inspiration of the song Moon River, and (2) my brother Glenn's inspiration for singing Moon River at my mother's memorial which was the catalyst for all the future Moon River coincidences to follow. There is also a coincidence between my Dad and Andy Williams, the famous singer who made Moon River his signature song. Andy Williams' real name is Howard Williams, the same name as my Dad.

 

And when you put all these amazing ADCs and Moon River synchronicities together, the message my Mom gave to my family (but especially me) from heaven is very powerful and clear. There is no doubt in my mind this is exactly the message my mother wanted to give my family, myself, and ultimately my website audience. And the evidence came through loud and clear. My Mom is still alive although physically dead. But on a personal level, I believe these synchronicities also reveal a message my Mom wanted me to fully understand. I believe she needed to convey somehow the reason why she chose to leave the family in 1970 -- something she had previously expressed guilty feelings about to me on several occasions -- even to the point of having feelings of being a "bad mother." Of course, I always reassured her this wasn't the case. And from these ADCs and Moon River synchronicities, I know the reason she, like the restless dreamer Holly GoLightly, needed to fulfill her "Moon River" dreams of "two drifters off to see the world." The movie adaptation of Truman Capote's novella Breakfast at Tiffany's explains it all -- beautifully, lovely, and heavenly. No one in my family has ever blamed my Mom for wanting to seek a new life -- and I believe rightly so. My Dad has specifically attributed her strong feelings of restlessness and wanderlust as the reason for the divorce. And my Dad, to his great credit, went out of his way throughout his entire life to ensure no blame was given. My reply to my Mom on this matter has always been the same. If she had not divorced my Dad, none of the great blessings of her own children's family and their children in Montana would ever have happened either. In other words, it was meant to happen -- according to The Powers That Be.

 Dec. 9, 2003

On this date, I finally discovered the Moon River news article my father heard about last year on his car radio by Paul Harvey.

 

My father's photo. I searched for this article without success for a long time; but on this day I finally found it. About a month after the memorial, my Dad heard Paul Harvey on the car radio talking about how the signs over the real Moon River were stolen. Since then, I have made many attempts to find this news article without success. But after spending hours on this day searching the Internet, I finally found it. It validates the news story about Moon River my Dad heard on the car radio.

  Feb-April, 2005

A copyeditor volunteered to create a manuscript from my family's ADCs and "Moon River coincidences" for my next book. It resulted in her personally experiencing numerous profound Moon River coincidences.

 

Breakfast at Tiffany'sDuring this time period, a volunteer copyeditor (Valerie Padley) began working on a manuscript for my new book "Nothing Greater Than Love," about my family's ADCs and Moon River coincidences, a follow-up book to my first book, "Nothing Better Than Death." While working on this project, she reported to me how she experienced remarkable Moon River coincidences of the kind occurring to my family.

On February 12, 2005, Val emailed to me about how she rented a movie entitled "Shall We Dance?" about a guy (Richard Gere) who decides to take ballroom dancing lessons. At the end of his first lesson in the movie, Val was surprised when she watched two people dancing to Moon River. She didn't know the song was in the movie when she rented it.

On February 19, 2005, Val emailed me about another Moon River coincidence while she was watching a commercial for Time-Life's music collection of the "150 Most Romantic Songs of All Time" and heard Andy Williams singing Moon River.

On February 20, 2005, Val emailed me about another coincidence. Val was going to visit me and a friend in Sacramento and used Google search to find a good Bed & Breakfast in Sacramento. When she Googled "Sacramento B&Bs" she noticed the third result on the search results page was "Moon River Inn at Freeport, Sacramento, CA."

On February 21, 2005, Val emailed me about how she worked on my manuscript all day, then stopped to watch American Idol on TV. One of the contestants sang Moon River. She told me how she came to the realization of these Moon River coincidences becoming much more meaningful because of them occurring whenever she works on the manuscript. Val remarked to me, "I feel like your Mom is trying to tell me something." I would also add how Val's coincidences are occurring synchronistically around the time of my Mother's birthday as well. The next day, Val emailed me these words, "I decided that I could in good conscience give my Official Synchronicity Stamp to these events! And I agree with you, the way they're occurring does seem to be a thumbs-up of some sort, whether from your Mom, God, the universe, the Force, etc. Basically the message I'm getting is, KEEP GOING."

On February 26, 2005, I emailed Val about a spontaneous phone call from my twin brother, Steve, whom I talked to on this day about the coincidences currently happening. He informed me how he was also pleasantly surprised to see the February 21st episode of the TV show American Idol when one of the contestants sang Moon River. Val emailed back to me, "I can hear the Twilight Zone jingle now. Ha."

On April 10, 2005, Val emailed me about receiving two Moon River coincidences within hours of each other. She wrote: "Kevin, what's up? I got two Moon River 'hits' today, which got my attention since they both happened within hours of each other. First I was at my sister-in-law's helping her pack up for a move. Cleaning out the garage closet I found a big framed poster of Audrey Hepburn in a scene from Breakfast at Tiffany's. I didn't think of it as synchronous til later at home when I turned on the TV and the news magazine Dateline was starting. They were doing a story on some couple who had been in love, and they used Moon River (the version with the harmonica and violins) as the background music. Of course, I'm not working on your manuscript at the moment, but the coincidence prompted me to check in. Hope you are well. I've still got my editing hat on, whenever you're ready to proceed."

April is the month of my deceased mother's birthday, so I was pleasantly surprised by Valerie's Moon River coincidences. But my attention at the time was turning more towards updating my website and less toward publishing another book. So my email correspondence with Valerie and my desire to publish another book eventually faded away. Little did I know there would be a good reason for doing so in the future because there would be more Moon River coincidences from my Father this time..

 July 28-29, 2009

As my father was in a coma and dying from complications related to lymphoma, he experienced a phenomenon called "terminal lucidity."

 

My father's photo. At the hospital, I was saying my "last goodbye" to my dying father who was in a coma. I put my hand over his heart, and with all my love, and with all my happiness of knowing he was going to heaven, and all the sadness of seeing him go, I said to him, "I love you, Big Guy!" When I said this, my Dad came out of his coma, opened his eyes, and gave me a big smile similar to the photo on the left for a few moments before slipping back permanently into his coma. I recognized right away the phenomenon known as terminal lucidity -- when a cognitively impaired person in a coma suddenly becomes clearheaded as death approaches. Judging from my Dad's beautiful face, I could see he was extremely happy. From his beautiful smile, I could only conclude he had caught a glimpse of something extremely beautiful on the Other Side which he wanted to express to me. Hours before his terminal lucidity, I led a family prayer over my Dad for the Light to guide him through his transition. I knew from NDE literature that such group prayer shines a bright light from heaven upon the one being prayed over. When my Dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, he and I eventually got around to discussing how he would provide me evidence of his continuing survival after death. The joke was that he would haunt my dreams like a ghost until proof was provided. Although I would have an ADC visitation dream of my Dad months later, my father's terminal lucidity on this date sent a strong message to me about his confidence in facing death and in the possibility of him receiving a glimpse of the Other Side. I also knew at the time of his terminal lucidity that this was how I was going to remember the last moments of my Dad.

 Oct. 15, 2009

My father appeared to me in an ADC visitation dream months after his death and just three days before his birthday.

 

My father's photo. Months after my Dad's death, and just days before his birthday (October 18th), I was having a normal dream where someone tapped me on the shoulder from behind. I turned around and there was my Dad standing there with the same huge smile on his face as I remembered during his terminal lucidity. The moment I saw my Dad, my normal dream immediately became lucid, and I suddenly realized my deceased Dad was interrupting my dream. My reaction to seeing my Dad in my lucid dream reflected this realization when I said him, "What are you, like Jesus or something?" My reaction was identical to someone who had just witnessed Jesus rise from the dead -- only it was my Dad. After expressing my reaction to seeing my Dad alive in my dream, I immediately woke up knowing he had just contacted me from the Other Side. Ever since then, my Dad appears regularly in my dreams -- but no more lucid dreams.

 July 29, 2010

This is the first anniversary of my father's death and transition to heaven.

 

My father's photo. On this date, Dad's first anniversary of his transition to heaven, I sent out an email to everyone commemorating the date and I included photos of Dad which I had made Internet-ready.

 August 1, 2010

A few days later, on this evening while watching TV, I stumbled across the beginning of the show "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show."

 

My father's photo. Andy Williams photo. A few days after my Dad's anniversary in heaven, I was thinking of him and still grieving over losing him. On this evening I was watching one of my favorite TV paranormal documentaries called "My Ghost Story." It was Episode 5 about a woman who had an ADC visitation of her deceased mother. The show got me to thinking about my own ADCs and Moon River coincidences. I wondered if seeing this ADC on TV had any "Moon River" significance. I shrugged it off. When the "My Ghost Story" show was over, I switched to the next channel which happened to be PBS. Lo and behold, it was the beginning of "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show." I was stupefied to say the least. This was no mere coincidence! This was a mental synchronicity! And It was complete heaven hearing Andy Williams croon Moon River again! Now I couldn't help but believe this Moon River coincidence had special significance to the first anniversary of my Dad's passing. It was as if heaven orchestrated it as a validation of my Dad's continued connection with me. No doubt in my mind. By the way, Andy Williams' real name is Howard Williams, the same as my Dad.

 August 3, 2010

On this evening while watching TV, I heard Moon River played by Henry Mancini from the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's on an infomercial for Time-Life's "Golden Age of Pop."

 

Henry ManciniTruman CapoteIn the evening, I was watching a Time-Life "oldies" infomercial on TV while working on my computer. I love watching these Time-Life "oldies" infomercials whenever they come on because I am a big fan of oldies music. This particular "oldies" infomercial was hosted by Pat Boone for Time-Life's "Golden Age of Pop." The infomercial included 1950's oldies such as Nat King Cole's "Mona Lisa", Debbie Reynolds "Tammy", and Johnny Mathis "The Twelfth of Never." Then without expecting the show, they played a clip from Henry Mancini's 1961 instrumental version of Moon River from the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's by Truman Capote. Once again, I was "blown away" and amazed by another Moon River coincidence.

 August 4, 2010

I received an email from my step-mother Marilee Williams telling me how she also stumbled across "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show" on TV on August 1st.

 

Marilee WilliamsBy coincidence, my step-mother Marilee also saw "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show" on PBS on the same night as I did. She emailed me, "I also was turning the TV channels and there was Andy Williams singing Moon River on PBS. I listened to him for awhile and then went to bed." I believe this is significant as an ADC for Marilee because she was married to my Dad and this was her first ever "Moon River" coincidence. Considering the other coincidences occurring around my father's death anniversary, it makes perfect sense for her to receive a "sign from heaven" at this time as well. After my Mom left my family in 1970, my Dad met Marilee and married her. In many ways, Marilee rescued my Dad and my family at that time. I know my mother was grateful for Marilee and they became friends over the years.

 August 7, 2010

On this evening while watching TV, I stumbled across repeats of "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show" and an A&E Biography of Truman Capote.

 

Andy Williams photo. Truman CapoteI was working on my computer and watching TV when I stumbled across a repeat of "The Andy Williams Moon River and Me Show" on PBS. Later that night on PBS, I stumbled upon an A&E Biography of Truman Capote, the author of Breakfast at Tiffany's, the movie which made Moon River famous.

 August 8, 2010

The A&E Biography of Truman Capote repeated on this date.

  Truman Capote

After the series of Moon River related TV shows appearing on TV recently, I had to check the TV listings to see if there were any more on this date. I noticed the A&E Biography of Truman Capote repeated this evening.

 August 9, 2010

The actress Patricia Neal, from the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's by Truman Capote, died on this day.

  Patricia Neal

Truman CapoteI learned on this day through the TV news that the actress Patricia Neal died today. In Truman Capote's movie Breakfast at Tiffany's, Patricia Neal played the wealthy matron Emily Failenson who supports a young writer played by George Peppard who falls in love with the lead character played by Audrey Hepburn. This appears to be the end of a series of Moon River coincidences occurring around the first anniversary of my father's death. From my perspective, there is no doubt in my mind these are ADCs signifying a "Hello from Heaven" from my Dad to help us through our tremendous grief over losing the patriarch of our family.

 July 29, 2011

This is the second anniversary of my Dad's transition to heaven.

 

My father's photo. On this date, the second death anniversary of my Dad's passing, I emailed my family to commemorate the event and embedded photos of my Dad in the email for all to enjoy.

 July 30, 2011

The next day, while searching the Internet for more information about a TV show I was watching, I stumbled across an article about "The Moon River Brewing Company."

 

My father's photo. Moon River Brewing CompanyThe next day after the second anniversary of my father's passing, I was watching one of my favorite paranormal TV documentary series called "Ghost Adventures" where paranormal investigators go to locations that are reported to be haunted. While I was watching the show, I decided to search the Internet for "Ghost Adventures" to read more about the show. Near the top of the Google search results was a Wikipedia's article on Ghost Adventures which I clicked on to read. Near the top of the article, I became very pleasantly surprised when I read the following: "So far, the investigators believe to have experienced and filmed three apparent possessions. [The first investigator] believes that he was possessed twice: first at the Preston School of Industry and second at Poveglia. [The second investigator], who admitted that he had never believed in possessions, now claims that he was possessed once at the MOON RIVER BREWING COMPANY..." When I read these words, I could have been knocked over by a feather! Then I clicked on the link to the Moon River Brewing Company, I checked out their About Page which states the following: "In 2003, the American Institute of Paranormal Psychology named Savannah [Georgia] the most haunted city in America. And what's widely regarded as the most haunted place in Savannah? You guessed it! But don't take our word for it…" Further down the web page you can watch several online videos of the "Ghost Adventures" episode at the Moon River Brewery.

 Oct. 16, 2011

On this morning, two days before my deceased father's birthday, I experienced an ADC of hearing his voice speaking clearly in my ear.

 

My father's photo. Two days before my Dad's birthday, I was waking up and was in that shadow area between wakefulness and sleep called hypnagogia. I heard my Dad's voice say very close to my ear in his normal voice, "Are you a smoker?" I had recently been given a California medical cannabis card and had just started smoking a little medical cannabis to help ease my bipolar symptoms. Throughout his life, my Dad was strongly against smoking pot in my family. But now that my Dad was in heaven, I felt more free to act in ways I knew he would disapprove if he were presently alive. So when I heard my Dad's clear judgmental voice of displeasure at my smoking pot, my realization after the immediate surprise of the ADC was, "Gee, Dad hasn't changed at all!" I had hoped the Other Side would have mellowed my Dad about sacred plants such as cannabis having shamanistic qualities.

 Oct. 18, 2011

On my father's birthday, I stumbled across a relevant article about Truman Capote's main character in Breakfast at Tiffany's, Holly GoLightly, Moon River, and the 60's sexual revolutions.

 

My father's photo. HYolly GoLightlyOn this morning of my Dad's birthday, I stumbled across an interesting and highly relevant article about Holly GoLightly, Truman Capote's main character in Breakfast at Tiffany's, Moon River, contributed the 1960's sexual revolution. The article perfectly encapsulates the "restless dreamer" personality of both Holly GoLightly and my Mom. The article makes a good case of how numerous women throughout the 1960's have lived vicariously through Truman Capote's character Holly.

 Oct. 19, 2011

My step-mother Marilee told me she heard the song Moon River played on a TV show the previous night on my father's birthday.

  Marilee Williams

I phoned Marilee and told her about the Moon River coincidence the previous day on Dad's birthday. I was pleasantly surprised when she said told me how, on the same evening, she watched "Dancing With The Stars" and watched  Nancy Grace dance to Moon River. This was the last Moon River coincidence for many years and I thought that was the end of it.

 April 20, 2017

I received a tremendous epiphany on this date about an event I experienced in 1978 near Yellowstone Park as part of a special week of university festivities which includied the Truman Capote lecture. But even more amazing, I discovered the fraternity party was just three miles away from the 2001 accident where my mother died.

 

Map of synchronicityTruman CapoteIt was just a week away from my mother's birthday on April 27. I phoned my long-distance siblings, Debbie, Steve, and Glenn, as I do usually after a very long period of time as we usually communicate through Facebook. After talking with my siblings, I spent some time thinking about them and about growing up in Montana. While I was doing this, I spontaneously received an amazing epiphany. While I was thinking of my college days in Montana, I remembered the college fraternity party I attended in 1978 near Yellowstone Park. I hadn't thought much about that fraternity party over the years, but as I thought about it, I realized it occurred at the same time I attended the Truman Capote lecture. And because the 1978 fraternity party occurred near Yellowstone Park, the same general area where my mother died in an accident in 2001, I wondered how close the fraternity party was to the car accident. The area around Yellowstone Park is a vast, mountainous wilderness, so I went to Google Maps to discover the distance in miles between the location of the fraternity party and the location of the 2001 accident. I was astonished to learn the 1978 fraternity party at the Gardiner Hot Springs is only three miles away from the 2001 accident. It was an amazing surprise! The fact that I attended a lecture by Truman Capote, the inspiration of Breakfast at Tiffany's, the inspiration of Moon River, and then in a matter of days, attended a party just three miles from where my mother would die in an accident 23 years later, with all her connections to Moon River, is just beyond coincidence and synchronicity. Because this amazing epiphany occurred spontaneously after contacting my siblings, and the memory of the fraternity party and its "Moon River" ramifications were not fully registered in my conscious mind until this time, I believed then, and I believe now, this epiphany was an ADC directly from my mother. It was as if my memory of the fraternity party was suppressed somehow until now -- a time when I could put all the pieces of my family's ADC puzzle together. Either that, or the Other Side couldn't wait any longer for me to figure it all out, so they decided to "jog" my memory and create this epiphany in my mind.

 Oct. 1, 2018

On this evening I participated in the first meeting of the Sacramento IANDS Group where I spoke about my book and how the ADCs related to my mother provided evidence of her continuing survival. A local news station covered the event which I watched on TV later that evening. Minutes later, a news story about Truman Capote appeared.

 

ABC News videoJust weeks before my Dad's birthday (October 18), I participated in the opening of the first local chapter of IANDS in Sacramento, CA, led by Michelle Kuret with her website at https://SacramentoNDE.com. I knew I would probably speak about my book, "Nothing Better Than Death," so I prepared all day to give a short talk about it. I also prepared to speak about the ADCs and Moon River coincidences which began while I was in the middle of writing the book. So all day I prepared -- not to give a short talk -- but to give a two-hour talk in case of an emergency situation should our guest NDE speaker not be able to appear at the meeting. So all day I was going over and over my "talking points" involving my family, Moon River, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Truman Capote, and the timeline from the 1960's to April 2017.

Nothing Better Than DeathBecause of our press release campaign, the local ABC TV News showed up and filmed a news report about our event which would appear on TV later that night at 11 pm. After having a fantastic meeting, where I was able to talk for several minutes about my book and my family's ADCs, I watched the 11 pm local Sacramento ABC News report about our event (click on the image above to view the video). I had absolutely no idea what to expect to see in the news report because I was nowhere near the ABC news cameras when they were filming. So when I saw the ABC news report display on TV the cover of my book, "Nothing Better Than Death," I couldn't believe my eyes! Not only that, they turned my book over to display the back cover of my book which included a big photo of me! Again, I couldn't believe it!

What could be more thrilling than seeing your book and yourself on TV? I would find out only minutes later. I was ignoring the news stories following the ABC news report about our meeting because I was on "Cloud 9" thinking about the free TV publicity I just saw concerning my book and myself. But, suddenly, my focus quickly turned again to the TV when I heard the TV news anchor mention "Truman Capote." What? Just minutes after the ABC news report aired on TV about our new Sacramento IANDS meeting, a news report came on TV about the Supreme Court Kavanaugh hearings and something about Truman Capote. I later discovered this October 1st article about the news report I heard on TV. It was about a staff writer for the New York Times Magazine, who was also a Truman Capote fellow for creative writing, and how she discovered the story about Kavanaugh throwing ice in a bar during the 1980's. Now given the fact that I had Moon River, Breakfast at Tiffany's, and Truman Capote on my mind all day on this day in connection with my family's ADCs, hearing Truman Capote mentioned on TV only minutes away from seeing my book and myself on TV is one of the most profound "Moon River coincidences" I have ever experienced. And it makes sense that I would have another such ADC at this time. Not only is October 1st the first time I spoke about my family's ADCs in a live public setting, but October is also the month of my deceased father's birthday (October 18). So this particular ADC had a strong impact upon me. It has renewed my desire to publish another book detailing my family's ADCs.

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"I think you are correct in assuming that synchronicity, though in practice a relatively rare phenomenon, is an all-pervading factor of principle in the universe, i.e., in the Unus Mundus (one world), where there is no incommensurability between so-called matter and co-called psyche." -- Carl G. Jung, founder of analytical psychology and NDEr

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